Posts Tagged With: honesty

A few days in……….

gratitudeGood grief! 25 views in one day and 6 followers at the moment. I know by most standards this is probably quite mediocre but I’m a little touched that a very small group of the 7 billion on this planet enjoyed my blog enough to click “follow”, let alone stick around long enough to read a post or two. So thank you. It really means alot. In an odd way it’s encouraging. I know most people love an underdog story but this isn’t that. I’m very blessed and all of my short comings are result of my own doing. But I’ll change these things and I’m glad that I have somewhere to record my progress and every view is a touch of encouragement! So, again, thanks.

You know, it’s a funny thing……….by writing some of these things down and sending them out into the cosmos of the Interweb it makes me feel accountable to everyone that has had a look. I’m excited for whats in store. I’m inspired to do a bit better and be a bit more thoughtful. I’m also a little surprised and ashamed that I haven’t felt this way after looking friends, girlfriends, boyfriends and myself in the eye when I let them down.

Shit. That’s a tough thing to admit.

-Your Boyfriend for the Evening

-Joe-

(More tomorrow…….this is getting scary.)

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Hey could you speak up?

I'm having good luck finding pics for these blogs!!

I’m having good luck finding pics for these blogs!!

I’m having a pretty good day today so I’m gonna talk about something other than my self…………sorta. I’m not going to provide any statistics but I am going to make assumptions based on my view of the world and moral set. Cause I’m like that.

We all have a cause I think. Some folks stand on their soap box for gender/sexual equality, others for disease and sickness, others for mass corporate ethical type things, animal rights, famine, oppression, religion and, so on. Some of us do a great job standing up for our causes. Others? Well not so much. For instance:FIRST, There is a guy I know; funny, clever, great bartender and boy oh boy does he get folks movin!! This man is a champion for gender equality, women’s rights and even helps raise cash for a local food charity in my city. Between Facebook, blogging, public speaking, and I’m sure many other forums, he raises awareness and opens folks minds for causes that he really believes in. This is to be commended I think. On the flip side there’s another guy I know that posts articles relating to the Illuminati’s involvement in EVERYTHING on his social media. The later, in my opinion, is the equivalent to a hobo walking around with a cardboard sign that reads “The End is Neigh”.

I believe that without troubadours, philanthropists, free thinkers, Samaritans, and the like, this little blue and green rock we call home would look quite differently than it does today. With that said, I wonder if  all of this would be necessary if we all just had a touch more common courtesy. My point? Get this. In my city we have an annual summit called the SLUT WALK. This tongue in cheek named event, from my understanding, is a feminist event celebrating women’s rights and does it’s best to hammer home the idea that survivors of sexual abuse and profiling are not to blame for the crimes and offences committed against them. I’ve been to 2 of these events as a spectator and I’ll tell ya, it’s quite a scene!!  Bare with me here…………Now I know and you know that rape, abuse and any measure of being inappropriate sexually  is not only unacceptable but it’s, on a visceral level, just plain WRONG.  This is where my idea of a bit more common courtesy might come in handy. How about we don’t rape women? Well let’s go a bit farther and just not rape anyone? And on the off chance that someone is abused…….let’s not blame the victim. OK?

Did you feel how silly that was? Suggesting that maybe if folks just didn’t do wrong, we wouldn’t need these empowered folks to raise awareness and bring light to some of these horrible issues? What a dream right? I guess my point is this:

This summer when you see a group of folks gathered somewhere with a bull horn and a soap box maybe have a listen. It could be a PRIDE march, Student protest, whatever it is it’ll be hard to miss I’m sure.  Find out what they’re making a fuss about because until we, as a global unit, reach a collective agreement on what is right and wrong we NEED these passionate speakers, demonstrators, artists, bloggers, and organizers to rally for and with folks with a unified voice to say “Um…..hey those things yer doin? Yeah, that’s kinda shitty and here’s why. Think you could cut it out? Thanks pal, sorry for blocking the street but we just had to let you know”

Cheers to the ones that raise their voices and by no means am I including myself in that bunch of courageous folks.

-Your boyfriend for the Evening-

-Joe

(Do I use the word “folks” too much?)

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Love and Rockets……… (or how to fall in love with everything)

I wish I built this image!!

I wish I built this image!!

My last entry seemed to be received well and I feel a touch lighter for having let it out there for anyone to see. This has driven me to my next confession: I love you, now watch me run away from you. Here’s the thing, anyone that shows me the least bit of affection I must, ABSOLUTELY must say and do things to let them know exactly how I can ruin a potentially healthy and meaningful relationship.  I’ve been engaged twice, I’ve bought 3 engagement rings, I’ve lived with 4 different love interests and tore  just about every relationship I’ve ever had into pieces at some point or another.

I know it may sound like I’m beating myself up or even being a bit of a sensationalist but I’m just doing my best to be as honest as I can because you never know who may pass by this little spot in the world wide web. I’m not going to make a list or get into the gory details of my love life but I will say that every relationship I’ve ever had I’ve had the best intentions from the beginning. I never wanted to hurt anyone. I believe that my capacity for love may be larger than some folks. I’ve wholeheartedly loved a man, a girl with a debilitating anxiety disorder, a kleptomaniac and a drag queen. I’ve helped with situations from drug abuse to financial peril, from sexual abuse to suicide attempts. This doesn’t excuse the amount of leaving I have done. I’d just like to give you a picture of my intentions. Here’s how these things happen: I meet someone that enjoys my company. My next thought is “Shit they’re gonna fuck off when they realize I’m just me”. So, I build my self up with things like dinner and songs on my guitar and stories of my past and my travels. Then SEX!! Then cuddles and hand holding………Then, I pull the trigger. “I think you’re really special sweetheart and I really what to spend more time with you” . Now this sounds like the usual path of healthy dating right? Kind of is, except this whole scenario happens in one evening.  I say and do these things and the person in my bed believes me so they call, and text and think of me when they’re out and then the next time we see eachother it’s too close for me but I know I’ve said and done these things and if I came clean now I’d look like a liar. I keep the charade going and give all of my self to it while keeping it at an arms length. Then 3 weeks, or 6 years later I say it’s too much. I pick out minor things that mean “We can’t be together” and make them huge. Now for the grand exit. “You’re very special to me and I’m hurting just as much as you but it has to be this way”. Exit stage left. Curtain down. Audience gives standing ovation.

Now the previous paragraph may read as a prideful guide to get laid but I wrote it with all humor of a regretful guy that despite his best efforts is waking up alone on a Wednesday morning. I’m not proud. Since New Years I’ve really felt a need for change from my detrimental, abusive and full of excess type lifestyle. My plan? Well……..Really I don’t have a PLAN yet but I do have an idea. I’m going to start with this blog. Admission and seeing the things I do in black and white, back lit on my laptop at 9 am is very humbling. Ultimately honesty with myself and self control are the keys for a bit of change and I know it’ll take some time. There are a couple important people in my life that I’ve reached out to and started the process of apology and laid the first bricks on the road to a healthy FRIENDSHIP. Having a look at this blog every now and again may help a bit aswell. I’m still going to sign off on these blogs the way I always do because I like the way it sounds and I may or may not have stole it from George Strombolompolus. Thanks for taking a few moments to have a bit of a look-see into my life. Stay tuned for the next bit of honesty and catharsis.

-Your Boyfriend for the Evening,

-Joe-

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