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A few days in……….

gratitudeGood grief! 25 views in one day and 6 followers at the moment. I know by most standards this is probably quite mediocre but I’m a little touched that a very small group of the 7 billion on this planet enjoyed my blog enough to click “follow”, let alone stick around long enough to read a post or two. So thank you. It really means alot. In an odd way it’s encouraging. I know most people love an underdog story but this isn’t that. I’m very blessed and all of my short comings are result of my own doing. But I’ll change these things and I’m glad that I have somewhere to record my progress and every view is a touch of encouragement! So, again, thanks.

You know, it’s a funny thing……….by writing some of these things down and sending them out into the cosmos of the Interweb it makes me feel accountable to everyone that has had a look. I’m excited for whats in store. I’m inspired to do a bit better and be a bit more thoughtful. I’m also a little surprised and ashamed that I haven’t felt this way after looking friends, girlfriends, boyfriends and myself in the eye when I let them down.

Shit. That’s a tough thing to admit.

-Your Boyfriend for the Evening


(More tomorrow…….this is getting scary.)

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Hey could you speak up?

I'm having good luck finding pics for these blogs!!

I’m having good luck finding pics for these blogs!!

I’m having a pretty good day today so I’m gonna talk about something other than my self…………sorta. I’m not going to provide any statistics but I am going to make assumptions based on my view of the world and moral set. Cause I’m like that.

We all have a cause I think. Some folks stand on their soap box for gender/sexual equality, others for disease and sickness, others for mass corporate ethical type things, animal rights, famine, oppression, religion and, so on. Some of us do a great job standing up for our causes. Others? Well not so much. For instance:FIRST, There is a guy I know; funny, clever, great bartender and boy oh boy does he get folks movin!! This man is a champion for gender equality, women’s rights and even helps raise cash for a local food charity in my city. Between Facebook, blogging, public speaking, and I’m sure many other forums, he raises awareness and opens folks minds for causes that he really believes in. This is to be commended I think. On the flip side there’s another guy I know that posts articles relating to the Illuminati’s involvement in EVERYTHING on his social media. The later, in my opinion, is the equivalent to a hobo walking around with a cardboard sign that reads “The End is Neigh”.

I believe that without troubadours, philanthropists, free thinkers, Samaritans, and the like, this little blue and green rock we call home would look quite differently than it does today. With that said, I wonder if  all of this would be necessary if we all just had a touch more common courtesy. My point? Get this. In my city we have an annual summit called the SLUT WALK. This tongue in cheek named event, from my understanding, is a feminist event celebrating women’s rights and does it’s best to hammer home the idea that survivors of sexual abuse and profiling are not to blame for the crimes and offences committed against them. I’ve been to 2 of these events as a spectator and I’ll tell ya, it’s quite a scene!!  Bare with me here…………Now I know and you know that rape, abuse and any measure of being inappropriate sexually  is not only unacceptable but it’s, on a visceral level, just plain WRONG.  This is where my idea of a bit more common courtesy might come in handy. How about we don’t rape women? Well let’s go a bit farther and just not rape anyone? And on the off chance that someone is abused…….let’s not blame the victim. OK?

Did you feel how silly that was? Suggesting that maybe if folks just didn’t do wrong, we wouldn’t need these empowered folks to raise awareness and bring light to some of these horrible issues? What a dream right? I guess my point is this:

This summer when you see a group of folks gathered somewhere with a bull horn and a soap box maybe have a listen. It could be a PRIDE march, Student protest, whatever it is it’ll be hard to miss I’m sure.  Find out what they’re making a fuss about because until we, as a global unit, reach a collective agreement on what is right and wrong we NEED these passionate speakers, demonstrators, artists, bloggers, and organizers to rally for and with folks with a unified voice to say “Um…..hey those things yer doin? Yeah, that’s kinda shitty and here’s why. Think you could cut it out? Thanks pal, sorry for blocking the street but we just had to let you know”

Cheers to the ones that raise their voices and by no means am I including myself in that bunch of courageous folks.

-Your boyfriend for the Evening-


(Do I use the word “folks” too much?)

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My Jobs…….All Of ‘Em!!


Just found this. Moved me a bit.

So it’s been quite a while since I’ve even looked at my WordPress account. In that time very little has changed. To be quite honest, very little has changed in my life since I was 15 years old. Sure my address may have changed a few times, I may have been in and out of relationships and I have definitely switched jobs………….many, many times. My life has remained a constant Groundhog Day, so to speak, for a million and one reasons.

My Point?

Time for a change, I think. I’m planning to do my best to change the important things. The things that, in my opinion, after a few weeks of introspection, self inventory, and honesty are most important  for a healthier relationship with myself, friends, and loved ones. This ain’t gonna be easy I’m sure but I’m promising anyone who may happen to stumble upon this stranger’s blog to give it a fair shake and see where it goes.

I think it best to do it in stages. I’ll let go of some secrets, reveal some lies, tell a bit of the truth and then every so often talk about where I’d really like to be………….So here goes!! I figured I’d start out by listing EVERY job I’ve ever had. This won’t be easy because there’s quite a bit of shame associated to this subject because I’ve had ALOT of jobs. Many (actually MOST) of them I was fired, let go, terminated ect. for various reasons. In many cases it was because I am not a punctual person, I feel entitled and worthy of praise for no good reason, or I simply gave up. I’m a prideful person with no real reason for it. I naturally feel superior to most people at most of my jobs and I am there for instant gratification, praise, beer money, to stave off boredom and mainly because it’s something to do. In almost every instance I’ve experienced a level of anxiety in building myself up so high that my skill cannot keep up and eventually I cannot get back to just being the new guy. In short I get a job, I build myself up, I cannot make good on my claims and I’m fired in 6 months.

That’s the Truth! I’d like to change these ways of thinking. I’d like to come to work and just do the job. I’d like to not interrupt another bartender and spew out my bartending credentials or after meeting a co-worker for the first time immediately imagine I’m  an integral part of the social fabric of that workplace. I’d like to be a bit more motivated by the pursuit of a JOB WELL DONE. I’d also like to experience less anxiety about starting a new day at work and just be the NEW GUY……….

My Job History (starting at age 15……I’m 30 now)

  1. McDonalds
  2. Protocol (tele-marketing)
  3. Randy River (retail)
  4. McDonalds (second time)
  5. Rainbow Lounge (first bar I ever worked at)
  6. Minix Tele-Marketing
  7. The WERX (bar/nightclub)
  8. Canway (mfg. plant)
  9. Jolly Farmers (pub in England)
  10. Route 66 (bar)
  11. Acclemation (restaurant)
  12. Subway
  13. Hill Program (group home)
  14. Good Shepherd Center (group home)
  15. McDonalds (3rd time)
  16. Bell Canada (CSR)
  17. Hamilton Windows & Doors (tele-marketer)
  18. Honest Lawyer (bar)
  19. Jax Bar (karaoke host)
  20. Old Fire Hall (karaoke host)
  21. Jolly Farmers (2nd time)
  22. Castle Tavern (England)
  23. Thirst (cocktail bar England)
  24. The Lodge (Gentleman’s Club England)
  25. Beaver and Bulldog (pub)
  26. Burger King
  27. Grand Olympia (banquet hall)
  28. The Homestead (bar)
  29. Endzone (karaoke host)
  30. Splitzville (bowling alley)
  31. Honest Lawyer (2nd time)
  32. Sarcoa (bar/restaurant)
  33. Proctor Manor (group home)
  34. Boston Pizza
  35. Boston Pizza (2nd location)
  36. The Firkin on Younge (bar)

In between these jobs I also took part time jobs in Roofing, Tiling, Demolition, Being a musician, hosting Open Mic Nights, Moving, among others.

This list is very shameful and I’ve gotta say, very embarrassing! I think Ive now reached a critical point in my life where I’ve recognized a problem and I’m trying to build a skill-set to change it. I don’t want to be the brunt of employment jokes to my friends anymore, I don’t want to see another unsurprised face when I say I’m “unemployed at the moment”. I absolutely don’t want to be fired again and I don’t want to feel the way I do anymore Realizing that I’ve had almost 40 jobs (probably more) in only 15 years and the shear mathematics of it all is just mortifying. I can’t say I have a fool proof plan at the moment but I believe that by taking small steps to keep myself conscious of the little things I do that become big indicators that I may not be a productive or contributory employee will help. I’m going to keep a copy of this list in my wallet to remind me how horrible I’d feel having to add another Employer to it. I’m going to do my best to keep my mouth shut and not be over familiar. And boy oh boy I gotta get to work on time, prepared, with a full stomach, with all the tools I need to do my job effectively and last but not least I MUST be honest with myself regarding my weaknesses and my strengths.

Here’s to doing my best.

-Your Boyfriend for the Evening


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